Thoughts on Marriage

June 16, 2006
12:33 pm
From her to him
(Three and a half years after it all started...)

Habi,

I read in one of the many 'marrying the right person' articles that every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fall madly in love, you anticipate their call, you crave for their touch, and you love every bit of their idiosyncracies. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. The article says that it's the natural cycle of every relationship. Phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

Reading that article scared the hell out of me. At first I refused to believe (same way I refused to believe Joanne's lola that you can never go back to 'just holding hands') that it happens to EVERY relationship. I wanted to think that ours will be different. But looking at married couples around me and recalling what I learned in Economics about the Law of Diminishing Marginal Utility, I began to accept the fact that some things really change through time and familiarity. But then again, if every relationship is indeed a cycle, then it should come full circle, shouldn't it? Among all the different definitions of love, what I truly believe in is that for it to be real, it should last. The euphoria of love may fade but the love itself will not. If anything, it will blossom into something more -if I may use a term I don't fully understand- profound and pure, devoid of any embellishments that come with young love, love that consists of comfortable silences, simple gestures, and loving looks that say it all [snipped]. Now more than ever, I'm looking forward to our married life together. Bring it on! :o)

Ang gusto ko lang naman talaga sabihin ay hindi magmamaliw ang pagmamahal ko para sayo hanggang sa ating pagtanda. Happy birthday, Habi!

Love,
Habi

June 16, 2006
3:36 pm
From him to her

Habi,

What joy in reading such a well thought-of and thought-provoking piece. You never fail to surprise me.

What joy in walking home, and looking up to see the light on from the bedroom window, and knowing that in there lies the One, your One, waiting to shower you with warm embraces and sweet kisses. Kahit ilang milya pa ang lakbayin, kung may ngiti naman sa labi pagdating, pagod ay di na alintana kapag nakita na'ng ilaw sa bintana. ;o)

What joy in looking forward to a life full of promise. God has been good, and life will get even better. So do not trouble yourself with needless things, my love. Tanggalin ang ano mang agam-agam. Slow and easy does it. Sabi nga ni Humot, "The wedding is just a dress reheasal of your life together. Just relax."

Je t'aimerai jusqu'à la fin du temps. Bon anniversaire, ma cherie.

Je t'embrasse,

Habi